So in the past 5 years as a young parent Ive gotten through some tough obstacles, Finances, relationships, Friends, Life itself and just the all around struggles of being a new mom. I have to say though one of the hardest obstacles has been my relationship with my fiance. When we met I was 18 and he was 16 (I thought he was older I swear) bahaha jk. We were young, selfish and in our honeymoon stage! Couldnt get enough of each other! Partying, going out and hanging in ;) So many nights of just me him good movies and I bottle of wine ;) Yes I know wine :S we were young! But back to what I was saying. The last thing we expected to have to do is grow up, learn to be selfless and be parents. But we did. With that being said its hard enough for an older more established couple to raise a child together and co habitat never mind teenagers doing it. He started working full-time, we got our own place and decided to have the baby. The first year of being parents was tough. Now being 18 and 20 and parents, we were lost. Both with each other and our selves. I didn't know myself anymore. All of a sudden I was this responsible adult with a child. I spent my weekends at home with a baby and my man. I spent the week going to play groups, grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry and making meals. Not what I expected to be like at 20. My fiance was a dad! Late nights with the baby, getting up early getting to work and providing for a family. We both had a wake up call!! This was not going to be easy!! The past 5 years have consisted of fighting, crying, trying to keep our relationship going with all these new life changes. We were going through periods of barely talking for weeks!! Statistically we had one in a million chance of working out! And there were times that I believed that. Many times! I am beyond lucky to have met my fiance and done this with him. He has stuck by me through thick and thin. No matter how much we felt like we literally hated each other, we didn't though. We worked on us, everyday. We worked on ourselves too. We didn't give up. The reason that the majority of couple don't work out anymore is because of how easily they give up. The hard part is both parties need to want to work on it. After a few years of struggling I can happily say we are still together and happily together. Now expecting baby number 2. I couldn't have asked things to work out any better. I have a beautiful family, a loving fiance. I don't know what the future holds for us but we've made is through some tough stuff that I feel like we can overcome any other obstacles together! All I can say is from my experience statistics mean nothing.
We all have a childhood dream that when there is love, everything goes like silk, but the reality is that a relationship requires a lot of compromise.
Sometimes my daughter says things that just melt my heart and really make me see that she isnt a baby anymore! She is truly a little person!! So as I mentioned in another post i recently found out I have gestational diabetes. So ive started changing my eating habits to get my Blood sugar levels under control. With that being said Ive also had to explain to Ava why mommy cant eat certain things anymore. So i tried to tell her that mommy cant be eating things with alot of sugar in them. So one of my favorite snacks is a cheese and mayonnaise sandwich. Yes a little strange but I love it!!! and so does Ava. So I went to go make her a snack and asked what she wanted to eat. She replied with "a cheese and mayonnaise sandwich". Right after she said that she looked at me with this sad concerned face and said " oh no mommy! can you eat mayonnaise?? does it have a lot of sugar?" So i answered with of course I can!! She then jumped up yelling HOORAY FOR MAYONNAISE!!. Yes this story sounds silly but it was an amazing feeling knowing my 4 year old honestly cares and pays attention to mommy!!
So its been one of those days! You know the days, were the night before you might have had all of 3 hours sleep because your toddler decides your bed is much comfier then her own :S Which 100% is not as you have an old springy mattress that you can barely stand sleeping on!! Oh how I cant wait for that savings to build up a little more so I can get myself a cloud!! OH ya so the funniest part of my lovely angel taking over our bed is that dad gets kicked off!! to the couch he goes! At least he got a little peace lol We all love the kick to the gut every half an hour because for some strange reason toddlers sleep sideways on your bed! :S WHY?? she sleeps the right way on her bed! It is definatly going to be interesting with the little one on the way! Next thing you know dad and I are both on the couch
So today my daughter drew me a family portrait!! As shes explaining to me that she has no legs because shes magical I ask " whos the big colorful person"? And she replies "oh thats you because your so big and your wearing a pink dress"! Im going to try not to take offense to the way a 4 year old sees a pregnant women :S
So I am 29 weeks pregnant with our second one! I am so excited! yet sooo nervous to do it all over again! I had my first when I was 19 and my fiance was 17. Yes he is younger :P We did it though. It was hard and we struggled all the time but we did it!! So why am I freaking out? If i could do it at 19, why not 23? I was really lucky to have found a good support group with my first that helped with the stress and the questions and all around confusion of having a newborn/infant and I dont have that group anymore. So Ive been having flashbacks hah those long nights, diapers, breastfeeding and just all around being there for a baby again. Is it all gonna come back to me? How different are each baby? How will it be with a 4 year old and a newborn. I feel like a first time mom all over again!!! Anyone else going through this? comments?? Advice?
I know that being a new mom has its scary moments. sometimes you just dont know what to do! Im constantly having those moments. I really want this blog to be a place were people feel free to ask advice or even questions. Dont be shy! My daughter is almost 4 now! And I am once again expecting!! Yes number 2 is on its way!
So alot has happened since the last time I was on here! My little monkey is almost 4 now! Where has the time gone? Makes me a little sad to think about honestly. I went back to work about a year and a half ago. Just made more sense financially. At the same time thats one of the big reasons I feel like the past couple of years have flown by. I know no parent should feel guilty for doing what needs to be done, but a part of me does feel guilty. 5 days of my week I was leaving before she wakes up and coming home at dinner. by that point she was grumpy and tired. I rarely got weekends off so we missed most of the family functions. Festivals, birthday parties, playdates. I know im not the only person who feels this way. Its just hard ya know? She has grown up so much. She is a little person now! Starting pre kindergarten in sept. I have to admit this is a fun age though. We actually have conversations and can have girls nights! paint our nails, watch movies. Have a relationship! So even though I feel like Ive missed out on alot, our relationship has grown so much too.
So I havent been stressing to get rid of my daughters bottle. Its been 5 days now since she has had one! I am pretty excited about that. Its been all on her own, no fight at all!
So i was always told that you should get rid of the pacifier and the bottle by 1 years old. So my daughter is now 2 and i cant seem to break the habit. Ive been thinking long and hard about whether I should stress and get rid of these habits. Honestly i think there are sooo many people out there just filling mothers heads with nonsense. My daughters bottle and pacifier are her comforts. No i don't let her run around at the park with a bottle or a pacifier at hand. She's only allowed to have them when she really needs them. EX bedtime, in the car. Or when she is really just having a tough time. Who am I to take away her comfort whether she 1 years old or whether shes 2. No she wont go into preschool with it. Eventually she will wean herself. I did as an infant. My mother had the same type of rules. I didn't walk around with my pacifier. It stayed in my room. By the age of 3 I was done with it. I don't know? am I the only mother out there that feels like its not fair to just take away the one thing my child has to comfort herself ?
I know that being a new mom has its scary moments. sometimes you just don't know what to do! I'm constantly having those moments. I really want this blog to be a place were people feel free to ask advice or even questions. My Daughter turns 4 in august so any questions for pregnancy to 4 i am more then happy to help you out with or you can comment! Don't be shy!!